Skoolboi's Playground

Motivation

2010-12-14T15:52:00.001-05:00

Top Five Tuesday: Happy Hour

2010-06-08T15:39:00.000-04:00

Last week, one of the members of my BBM group suggested getting tattoos after work. It was something that I had been thinking about every since I got my first one a couple of years ago. I was excited about the idea and agreed to meet up with a few folks at the chosen destination. It turned out that the artists at this particular location were booked for the rest of the day. We could have waited around to see if they could fit us in but that idea did not sit well with either of us. Instead, we decided to hit up a nearby spot for happy hour. Upscale spot with a reputation of being a good meet and greet. The reputation was well earned. Sisters had left work, went home, and put on their man catching outfits. Dudes were putting their best mack moves on anybody willing to listen. Drinks were flowing. The DJ was playing a good blend of hip-hop and soul music. I told myself that I need to make it back to this spot for the next happy hour. We sat down and started in on some drinks and tapas that we ordered.
It was only when I got a chance to sit down and people watch did I observe all of the violations of happy hour conduct that were taking place.

1. Stop passing out business cards if you only want the booty. Just put her number in your phone so you can send that late night text.

2. Engage people in conversation. If you are standing or sitting all alone and not talking to the people around you, you look crazy.

3. If it is not casual Friday, why are you at happy hour in shorts, flip-flops, and a white tee? Ever heard the saying, Clothes make the man? That might not be true but the concept of happy hour is that working professionals are meeting up after work. You just finished playing a serious game of Madden on Xbox.

4. You have to drive home so why are you so drunk that you can barely stand up. There is nothing more unattractive to me than a woman who cannot control her liquor. Do not be sloppy.

5. The one disturbing trend that I noticed more than anything else was dudes walking through the spot and staring at all the women. Not speaking but just walking through as if they were on patrol. What type of game is that? I guess the women were supposed to see these irresistible dudes and speak first. Must work somewhere but it did not work that night.

Song Of The Moment: Novel ft. Algebra - Switch It Up

2010-05-24T21:36:00.001-04:00

If Your Heart Isn't In It...

2010-05-23T15:44:00.000-04:00

I told y'all a while back that for some reason people tend to come to me for relationship advice. I guess they don't hear all my stories about sabotaging perfectly good things or having a knack for saying just the wrong thing at the right time. Last week, one of my new employees came over to my desk to ask me what he should do about a young lady he was "seeing", really that he was fucking. I sat him down and asked him to give me a little background on the situation. “Krush, I just don’t understand why a woman who knows I’m not looking for a relationship would still catch feelings.” I immediately knew he was in trouble but I wanted to hear the entire story laid out before I said anything.

Apparently, he and this young lady had gone to college together and for the past year had been sex partners. That was a red flag for me because in my opinion those types of relationships are temporary by design. After some time, you need to move on because you’ve gotten involved with someone else or god-forbid you want to try to turn it into a real relationship. To further complicate this particular situation, my co-worker had been spending significant boyfriend time with a chick he says he only views as a jump-off. By boyfriend time, I’m talking about going over for home-cooked meals, movie nights, and even hanging with her and her friends. Nothing wrong with any of that but it’s not exactly the ideal thing to do if you don’t want a woman to start feeling you. So as can be expected, the young lady has decided that she wants to take this thing to the next level. You can’t really blame her. However, dude has a full roster of chicks that he isn’t trying to give up. Settling down is the last thing on his mind. Did I mention we are talking about some babies here? Both of them are twenty-four.

The kicker to his sob story was that he had paid homegirl’s electric bill a couple months prior. As soon as he told me that I said, “Hell, if you pay any bill in my house, we go together. I can see why she is expecting this to turn into something.” All he could say to me was, “I have always told her that I didn’t want a relationship.” Shaking my head was the only thing I could do at that point. This was a line that men have uttered over and over again when trying to figure out just what went wrong in their attempts to be a player. I’ve said it a few times myself. I told him about his violations of the rules of a jump-off and he said that he just couldn’t be that cold about it. He needed to spend some time with this woman and admitted that the sex was too good for him to act any differently. My response, “If you don’t have the heart to be a player, get a girlfriend.”

That’s a lesson I learned early. I could never be a player so I don’t even try to live that life. Unfortunately, I’m not good a relationships either. Guess I’ll be a lonely old man. My young co-worker should take this a fork in the road and change his game. By the way, I’m not even going to tell y’all about the chick who acted a fool at his momma’s house the same weekend. However, its spring time and he wasn't trying to hear what I was telling him. We will be back here in a matter of months.

Passing Notes: Fall Back Spring Ahead

2010-05-17T21:20:00.000-04:00

Unexpected Advice

I was on the phone the other night with the person I like to call my bestest. She has been a good friend to me since my Morehouse days. She's they type of friend that girlfriends and wives never like. She hangs with the fellas; is very loyal; and is protective when it comes to me. The type of friend you would want with you if a fight broke out. We hadn't talked in several months but that wasn't unusual at this point in our lives. The conversation that night eventual went to my current single status and what went wrong in my relationship.

"Krush, sometimes you have to fall back for things to work out."

I understood what she meant because I had thought the same thing. Hearing her confirmation of it, only strengthened my resolve. Pushing back from a situation can give you the clarity necessary to make a proper decision about how to move forward. It is wild how hearing something so simple from an unexpected source can make so much more sense than the thoughts that are rambling through your own mind.

I made a promise to myself that I was going to take this summer to enjoy myself and refocusing myself on the things I want to achieve. So if I told you in the past that I was coming through to visit, this will be the year. Don’t be surprised when you look up and see me in your favorite spot.

NBA Playoffs

As I write this the Celtics are putting a hurting on the Magic in the Eastern Conference Finals. I actually like Boston but I can’t cheer for them in this series because I know they would dominate the Lakers if they met in the Finals. Yep, I’m going for the Lakers to win it all again. I just want Kobe to have more rings than Shaq. Celtics are a problem though. Between Rondo, KG, Pierce, Jesus and Roscoe, they got too much heart for the Magic. Dwight Howard is getting exposed for being one dimensional and not strong enough mentally to win the whole thing. Speaking of the mentally weak, Lebron choked once again. I was cheering against the Cavs all season so I’m good without the Lebron-Kobe matchup everybody else has been looking forward to this year. The only disappointing thing was that Antoine Jamison was exposed as not being the player we all thought he was. I really thought he was going to make a big difference in the playoffs.

As far as my Hawks go, they imploded just like they did last season. I wanted to get rid of the coach two years ago but management decided to keep him after the team stretched the Celtics to seven games in the first round. He had taken this team as far as he could. They need an experienced coach to push them over the top. The way things went down this post season, I don’t expect this team to make the playoffs next season. New coach, new players, and little expectations. Looks like I’m back to waiting on the lottery.

Krush Redux

2010-05-08T13:35:00.000-04:00

"I believe that one defines oneself by reinvention. To not be like your parents. To not be like your friends. To be yourself. To cut yourself out of stone." - Henry Rollins

Song of The Moment: U-N-I Desha Dayana

2010-04-14T19:32:00.005-04:00

Passing Notes

2010-04-12T22:26:00.000-04:00

As I told you before, I joined the gym to get my mind and body focused on self-improvement. It seems like everybody but me at the gym is already in great condition. I guess the rest of us fat people exercise (or not) at home to avoid the embarrassment. Maybe I should start of gym for people who are at least 40 lbs over their ideal weight.

With college basketball finishing off with a great tournament and the NBA playoffs here at the end of the week, this is a basketball junkie’s favorite time of the year.

Caught about ten minutes of Basketball Wives, What Chilli Wants and Brandy & Ray J combined last night. Is this what we have come to? A bunch of groupie chicks who never were or will be anyone’s wife, a woman who is so convinced that Mr. Perfect is out there that she will overlook any guy with real potential for her, and two spoiled brats who without their mother’s foot up their behinds would have not done anything.

Current music in rotation: Fabolous – There Is No Competition 2, Erykah Badu – Return of the Ankh, Sade – Soldier of Love, and DJ Quik – Live at the House of Blues.

I’m going real hard on this get in shape program. Saturday morning I went to a new gym, X3 Sports, over in the Inman Park area. These folks go real hard and that is what I need to prevent me from slacking off. I did a cross-training program called Fast Track that is pretty much one of those cardio boot camps. That shit kicked my ass. The next morning I woke up feeling the effects all over my body. On a mission though so I plan on hitting the gym at least three days per week. Encourage your boy!

You Win One You Lose One

2010-04-11T16:17:00.000-04:00

If finding me means losing you is it really worth it?

Along this journey called life I have found that one of the most difficult things for me to do is to find the balance of my growth and our growth. Sometimes these two things are going in opposite directions. In any relationship, it’s important that each person is a separate entity equipped with their own goals, accomplishments, friends, and private time. Blinding all of that together in a way that leaves both people “happy” can be damn near impossible. This I know first hand. I’m going through a breakup now. BTW, does anybody know why only the bad breakups end cut and dry and the good relationships seem to linger on forever?

My girlfriend broke up with me because she thought that I could grow more on my own instead in a relationship with her. I agreed. We both had gotten tired of bumping our heads on the same wall. However, that doesn’t make it hurt any less.

So here I am trying to grow as an individual while failing as a boyfriend. Again.

The first thing I did was find something to take up all of my free time. I joined a gym near my job so that I can get a good workout instead of coming home to watch television every night. I started reading my bible on a daily basis to work on my spiritual health. Lastly, I have spent more time with friends that I neglected while in a relationship. People are telling me that I’m looking better, happier, and god-willing smaller. All of that is well and good but on the inside I feel empty.

I know it takes time to get over things but who is going to make me laugh, kiss me slow or hold my hand in public in the meantime?

Song Of The Moment - Tightrope - Janelle Monae

2010-04-03T19:32:00.001-04:00

Notes to a Young Krush #1

2010-03-22T21:15:00.000-04:00

I got a great idea for a blog from a friendly conversation on BBM the other day. A friend of mine talked about hearing the idea of doing a blog for a loved one filled with words of wisdom that they could read at some point in their life when the time was right. I told her that I was going to use that idea for my blog. Instead of writing for a young relative, I am writing this blog to myself. Advice and life lessons that I wish someone had told me when I was younger. In the first installment of this series, I am going to write about loving yourself for whom you are and who you aren’t.

"Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you?" - Fanny Brice

I know you’ve heard people say that life is short. I disagree. Life is very long and it’s too long to go through it being anything less than you. As a young person, you can easily get caught up in the desire to fit in or live up to the expectations of other people. However, I would suggest to you that you need to find some quiet time for self-reflection and learn to love yourself. There are only a few people you can truly count on to have your back as you go through this life. Building strong relationships is one of the most important things you can accomplish in life. Family and friends will help to make life more enjoyable. When the ups and downs of life truly impact you, it will be you alone who will have to deal with it. No you won’t be perfect. Everybody has flaws and weaknesses. Acknowledge them and try to improve in those areas but don’t focus too much energy on the negative. Like everyone, you are unique and special in your own way. Strive to improve everyday and dream big

Random Thoughts

2010-03-19T10:56:00.000-04:00

NCAA Tournament - This is one of my favorite times of the year period. Winter turns to spring; women start rocking open toes shoes again, and the NBA and college hoops get into championship mode. My memories of the NCAA tournament go way back to my elementary school days. It was one of the few times that my parents would let me stay up past my bedtime on a school night. That was the start of me being a certified basketball junkie. I am on a absolute high from yesterday's games too. Georgetown getting taken out by a mid-major and so many great buzzer beaters just solidified my love for this tournament.

Tiger's sexting - Are you serious? First of all, this is what you get when you mess with gut-bucket trolls like the chicks that Tiger allegedly messed with. Secondly, this only confirms just how much of a lame this dude is/was. Let's be honest though folks, all of us have sent some text messages like that but we just didn't get put on blast. I feel like they are trying to assassinate this dude's career. Even though I've never been a fan of him as a celebrity, I respect his game. Cheering for him to kill them at the Masters.

"If you have an hour, will you not improve that hour, instead of idling it away?" - Lord Chesterfield

Passing Notes: Disconnected

2010-03-14T13:38:00.000-04:00

Last Friday, I lost my blackberry and have been without a cell phone for this entire weekend. At first, I was panicking and worrying about all of the things I would miss without my phone. However, as the weekend has played itself out, I am enjoying this break from my electronic leash. It has given me some time to think without someone else’s thoughts penetrating my mind. Although my phone was a useful tool for organizing my life, at times it became a crutch that I depended on too much. I can probably tell you about three numbers from my contact list by heart. I’m not the only one like that though. One of my co-workers has two personal phones and one for the job. Another friend routinely falls asleep with the phone in her hands and has to search through the sheets in the morning for it. It is not unusual to see people on their phones in church, during meetings, while driving and even know someone who talks on the phone in the shower. This hiatus has given me some time to step back enjoy my own thoughts for a change. Introspection was never my strong suit but I’ve been plotting and planning this weekend. Maybe I’ll have some intentional cell phone vacations in the future.

P.S. I’m getting my replacement blackberry tomorrow. I can’t wait.

Kardinal Offishall - We Gon Go

2010-02-06T19:47:00.001-05:00

Things I Believe - The 2010 Edition

2010-01-27T18:55:00.001-05:00

The reason that side pieces do not know their role anymore is that reality television, YouTube and Twitter has made everyone believe that they are supposed to be stars. Know your role people!
"You ain't a pimp. You're just a rest haven for hoes!" - Pretty Tony
Everybody (including myself) waiting for Hip Hop to return to the the level of the golden era should give it up. A genre that was built on being anti-establishment is not THE establishment.
Satellite and internet radio is much better than over the airwaves radio. Some of my favorites include The Foxxhole on XM, DTF Radio, and Beehive FM. There is better variety of music and uncensored conversation. Check it out.
Forget Jay-Z, Sade is the one who made the pact with the devil. How else do you explain her going away for over a decade and coming back looking exactly the same?
Packaging and presentation is everything. You can make anything work if you present it in the right way and it looks like something everybody would want.
What you do in the dark will always come to the light!
No matter how many Super Bowls Tom Brady, Peyton Manning or Brett Favre win, they will never be better than Joe Montana.
People will always find fault with the things you do so live for you and make yourself happy.
With all these natural and man-made disasters that are happening lately, it's even more evident that it is time to get right with God now.

Things Martin Said Other Than, "I Have A Dream!"

2010-01-15T12:21:00.000-05:00

It's a shame that this great man has been limited to just one famous speech. Here are some of my favorite quotes from Martin Luther King, Jr.:

"Whatever your life's work is, do it well. A man should do his job so well that the living, the dead, and the unborn could do it no better."

"We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the hateful words and actions of the bad people but for the appalling silence of the good people."

"We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies."

"There is nothing more tragic than to find an individual bogged down in the length of life, devoid of breadth."

"Rarely do we find men who willingly engage in hard, solid thinking. There is an almost universal quest for easy answers and half-baked solutions. Nothing pains some people more than having to think."

"Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?'"

"Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity."

Passing Notes

2010-01-14T15:47:00.000-05:00

What a week, right? From the death of Teddy Pendergrass to the earthquake in Haiti. It has just been one reminder after another that life is so short and that we need to treasure each moment we have, good and bad. For most of the younger generation, their only exposure to Teddy P was from the mention in The Nutty Professor movie. However, I remember him all the way back to his days in Harold Melvin and The Blue Notes. His voice stood out on those old records my father used to play on Saturday mornings. He was not the smooth balladeer that was just a little too pretty for a young boy to want to emulate but a strong masculine brother who demanded that his female companion turn the lights off. Loved that dude. His death along with the death of Gerald Levert brings to end for me the era of the real male r&b singer.

The tragedy in Haiti really breaks my heart. The people of that country were already struggling before this disaster. I have sent up many prayers for the men, women, and children. However, I have not texted, emailed, or tweeted for charity. Something about that seems shady to me. One thing we learned from Katrina is that much of the money, supplies, and clothing that people donated never reached the actual people in need. So how do you help in a situation that you feel helpless about? Any suggestions?

I was listening to the Stephen A. Smith show this morning on my way to work and the topic of conversation was the Tiger Woods fiasco and recent reports that Tiger has checked into a rehab center for sexual addiction. Stephen and his female co-host quaffed at the idea of that being Tiger’s problem and the entire belief in sexual addiction. The co-host made a comment that all men must suffer from this addiction because monogamy seems to be a universal problem for that gender. That theory also led to the belief that this was the reason that so many women were single and unable to find suitable partners. Of course, Stephen disputed this notion by saying that it is the certain women’s unrealistic expectation that the men they date/marry should come to them as fully realized, developed, and finished products. It is his belief that a man is not completed or polished until he finds that woman who will mold him into his full potential. There is certain logic to his theory but I am not sure I would agree with it entirely. I agree that neither women nor men should expect a flawless package when dealing with the opposite sex. However, everyone should have a standard or minimum qualification for potential suitors. What do you think? Are you expecting the people you begin a relationship to have accomplished everything except a committed relationship? I am thinking the answer will change depending upon the age of the person answering.

Playoff Picks:

Saints over Cardinals

Ravens over Colts

Vikings over Cowboys

Jets over Chargers

In Case You Forgot

2010-01-06T21:39:00.004-05:00

Props out to the young baller Brandon Jennings for bringing back the hightop fade. Below is a pic of him during his McDonald's All-American days but he brought it back the other night against the Nets. On and off the court, this young man has earned much respect from this hoop junkie.

Here is a little Mos Def and Talib Kweli for your soul.

Passing Notes

2010-01-05T19:15:00.001-05:00

Welcome to 2010! Happy New Year to all of you.

This year I decided not to come up with any resolutions. Don't want to end the year looking back at things I didn't accomplish. Instead, I've made to list of things to do each month. One list of things I need to accomplish and the other list is of things I want to get done. Each month I will pick a couple of items from the lists to perform. At the end of the year even though I may have not accomplished everything on the lists, I will have gotten some things done. Still working on my vision board too.

Over the holidays, I saw several pretty good movies. Everything from Avatar to It's Complicated; both of which I would recommend. However, the best movie I saw was one that I had missed at the theatre so I had to check it out when I saw it was available On Demand. That movie was 500 Days of Summer. I love the unique way the story was told and how everything gets tied together in the end. If you get a chance, check it out.

In basketball news: Gilbert Arenas has lost his damn mind. I've heard some interesting stories about this guy off the court but to find out that he was keeping guns in his locker and actually pulled out on a teammate is the wildest. I don't really blame the other cat because if I'm a bench warmer and dude with a $100 million contract is trippin off paying me the $60,000 he owes me, I might point a gun at his ass too.

I can't wait to see LeBron and the Cavs fall on their faces when the playoffs get here. Yes, I am not a witness. Boston is still my favorite to win it all this year. They just need to be healthy when the playoffs come around. Kobe continues to solidify my belief that he is the best player in the game today. With broken fingers on his shooting hand, he is still getting buckets and crushing fools hoop dreams on a nightly basis. Long live the Mamba!

NFL playoffs are here so that is exciting. The league has always wanted parady amongst the teams so that fans in multiple cities could feel as if their squad had a chance to hoist up the Vince Lombardi trophy in February. They definitely have that now. Your guess is as good as mine about who will win the NFC. I'm an Eagles fan though so I'll be pulling for them to get Donovan his ring. AFC is up in the air too. The Chargers are my pick to take it but they will have to go on the road to get it done. I'm ready for some playoff football!

If you haven't heard that Exhibit C by Jay Electronica, please go out and get that now. Dude is bringing real hip hop back. I said Kanye West was my choice for producer of the last decade but Just Blaze might be the one holding the belt when its all said and done.

I want to cut back on the amount of television I watch and start back to reading more. The crazy mess that is on network and cable television right now is making the less tv part easy. However, I need some suggestions for good books out there that I need to check out. Help a brother out!

The Wire - 100 Greatest Qoutes

2009-11-22T00:11:00.001-05:00

I had to post this since I miss my favorite show so much. Got beef with them not including the "40 degree day" line in there though. Enjoy.

NBA 09-10 Season Preview

2009-10-27T18:35:00.003-04:00

It's my second favorite time of the sports year(the NCAA tournament is number one). At the beginning of a new season, almost every team has hopes of making the playoffs, old faces in new places, and rookies ready to prove themselves. Every new year also brings so many questions. This year those questions include how will the Laker's chemistry be affected by Ron Artest, will Allen Iverson really play an entire season in Memphis, why won't New Orleans get Chris Paul any help, and can Lebron really pull the anchor that is Shaq up and down the floor enough to win the East. Answers for these questions will only come as the season plays itself out. As usual, I'm hoping for the Hawks to have a big season and make that third spot in the East (wishful thinking). If they can learn to win a game on the road, they will be trouble.

Anyway, here are my predictions for this NBA season:

Rookie of The Year: Tyreke Evans - Sacramento Kings

Most Improved Player: Jeff Green - Oklahoma City Thunder

6th Man of The Year: Jamal Crawford - Atlanta Hawks

Defensive Player of The Year: Dwight Howard - Orlando Magic

Coach Of The Year: George Karl - Denver Nuggets

Most Valuable Player: Carmelo Anthony - Denver Nuggets

Eastern Conference Champs - Boston Celtics

Western Conference Champs - Denver Nuggets

World Champions - Boston Celtics

Give me your answers to these questions and who are you rolling with?

TMI: A Little Friday Fun

2009-09-25T09:43:00.000-04:00

1. Have you ever shared sleeping accommodations with someone of the without anything steamy happening?

2. Have you eve streaked, flashed, or otherwise partially or totally exposed yourself in public before (or after) an informal, unofficial gathering of people?

3. Have you had dates with multiple people in the same weekend (or consecutive nights or the same night) while not all of your dates were aware of your actions?

4. What is the most "romantic" you have ever gotten in a movie theater?

5. Have you ever had sex when you knew a non-participating adult was watching?

Bonus (as in optional): If you could say anything you wanted anonymously to anyone, without identifying that person, what would you say?

Song Of The Moment

2009-09-08T22:05:00.001-04:00

I don't care what Jay Z says about it, this joint is fire.

Showing Mike Some Love

2009-07-13T20:10:00.002-04:00

Fellas, Save Your Relationship

2009-07-06T20:37:00.001-04:00

I'm trying to take some of this advice.

1. After your next screaming match, right before the makeup sex, don't bother with the "I love you" cliché. Just tell her, "You know, you're the only person I'd ever tolerate talking to me like that. You're that amazing."

2. No screaming matches lately? Have one, fast. If she's screaming at you, she still gives a damn. Silence from a woman means something has died. (Or will die. Tonight. In his sleep.)

3. Drop this bomb: "You remember the time we [insert personal-best sex saga here]? I bet we could do even better."

4. Thinking about leaving her? Think about this first: No woman is perfect. The next one you pick up could indeed be cooler, hornier, and wealthier. But you'll soon grow tired of her crap, too.

5. Maul her for 10 seconds when she least expects it. A mini-maul here, a mini-maul there. Next thing you know, you'll have a strip-maul.

6. All the stuff you'd want after a breakup—nights on the town, drop-of-a-hat vacations, those long-put-off season tickets—you can enjoy right now. With a built-in date. So pick something fun and do it.

7. Learn a new sport together—like golf or fencing—that encourages you to admire each other's form.

8. As you ask your buddy for counsel on your girl's dropping temperature and increasing distance, did it ever occur to you to ask her?

9. Go Gomez Addams on her. Speak Spanish. Dance the Mamushka. Kiss her from her wrist to her armpit. Blow up a train set together. Cara mia!

10. Commit an unsolicited act of cleanliness.

11. This weekend, take her to the grocery store to buy ingredients for a great dinner. Also pick up food specifically earmarked as body paint.

12. You're both 10 excess pounds away from feeling good about yourselves again. Drop 'em together. It'll be you and her against the world, just like old times.

13. You haven't offered up a late-night post coital confession in a very long time. Surprise her.

14. Reinstate one courtesy toward her that's been lost since your courtship: opening the car door for her, bringing her flowers, holding in your gas.

15. Organize a cheesy diamond-commercial moment—like reproposing to her at Trafalgar Square in front of family. Overwrought? Yeah, but do the math: jewelry + effort + pigeons + her parents = months of rough sex.

16. Tried everything on this list and she's still unresponsive? It's time to smile, hold her hand, and offer her these five risky words: "Now it's up to you."

TMI: Sex or Love?

2009-06-25T08:06:00.000-04:00

1. Would you stay in a loveless relationship for the amazing sex?

2. If you could only have one, which would you choose: love that lasts forever or great, body numbing sex?

3. Looking back at your past loves, which one should you have married/taken back and who should you have tossed earlier than you did?

4. if you had one last fuck in you where, how and who would you “give it” to?

5. Which is more important sex, money, love and happiness? (and no, you can’t pick’em all)

Song Of The Moment

2009-06-23T17:55:00.002-04:00

One of my favorite groups, Reflection Eternal, is back together again and dropping an new CD later this year. Check out the first single. Can anybody tell me who the sister is on the hook?

Happy Birthday To This Guy!

2009-06-16T11:31:00.000-04:00

Crazy Is The New Sexy

2009-06-11T09:55:00.003-04:00

The year was 1990. I was doing a summer internship at the Boeing Company in Seattle (Technically, it was Renton but y’all do not know anything about that). Anyway, my dude AB’s mom gives me a call and says that a young female friend of the family is in town for the summer and interning with Boeing as well. The girl was a member of Jack & Jill along with AB and his little sister. AB’s mom wanted to know if would mind hanging out with her and showing her around town until she made some friends at work. I was a little apprehensive about it because if she was wack I would have to figure out a way to ditch her without having AB’s mom call my mom and tell her how trifling her son was. In addition, I was just beginning to gain my confidence and come into my own. With a little money in my pocket from the internship, I had plans of getting my Mack on big time that summer. All of this went through my head in the thirty seconds between her asking the question and my reply, “No ma’am, I would love to show her around.”

That Saturday morning, I hit the barbershop and then headed out to AB’s crib to meet this chick for the first time. Mind you, I was gaining confidence but was not comfortable around women, especially attractive ones. When I rang the doorbell, I could feel a trickle of sweat going down the center of my back. It was only about 70 degrees that day. Lump in my throat as she opened the door. Standing in front of me was one of the most attractive young women I had ever seen and she was smiling in my direction. I extended my hand, “Hi. I’m Krush!” She said, “Terri. Nice to meet you. I guess you are going to be my tour guide, huh?” This was going to be a good summer.

For the next several weeks, Terri and I hung out almost every day. She worked in a different location than I did but we would meet up for lunch along with our fellow interns. After work, we would go out for dinner or go shopping with our newly earned money. Terri turned out to be a cool chick that was into hip-hop, sneakers, and partying. She was also a big freak that wanted to get it in every chance she could. Yeah, it was a good summer. At least it started out that way.

I have a theory about attractive women that says the more attractive a woman is the more issues she will have. I got that theory from this summer and this woman. One of the signs that I ignored about Terri was that she would spazz out about the smallest things. For example, she had rented a car for the summer and had some trouble with it. I went with her to the rental place to exchange it for a different car. The place only had a few cars on the lot that were set aside for long-term rental. I guess none of them fit her style but she had no choice but to select something from what was available. I help her pick a car and we drive off the lot. No more than a block from the place, she starts crying and talking about she wants to go home to AZ. I am like, “It isn’t that bad. At least you aren’t catching the bus.” Why did I say that? She becomes even more hysterical and pulls over to a gas station to use the pay phone (When was the last time you used a pay phone?) and proceeded to call her mother and pitch a fit like an eight year old. Her mom even wanted to talk to me because Terri was not able to get the entire story out. At that point, I should have distanced myself but I felt sorry for her being alone and the sex was good. (That brings up another theory about crazy women having the best bedroom game)

As the summer progresses, she made other friends, in fact I heard some wild stories about her and a threesome. However, we still got together occasionally to do the damn thing. It was not anything exclusive so I did not think too much about it when I started seeing someone else. One particular Saturday, I went shopping with another intern from North Carolina A&T. It was one of those all day dates that included lunch, shopping, and a movie. This is before I ever had a cell phone or a pager. It turns out that Terri was trying to get in contact with me the entire day. She had called the house a couple times and called some of the other interns to see if I was hanging with them. By the time I reached my house, my mother appeared concerned and informed me that Terri had just left and that she seemed upset about something. She also informed me that my friend, Corey, had called and said that Terri had called him asking about my whereabouts. Okay, I already knew this chick was not wrapped too tight and my mom had confirmed my belief after their initial meeting. Just then, the doorbell rings. I open the door to Terri standing on the porch with hands on hips and an evil look in her eye. “I need to talk to you! Can we take a walk?”

As a young man, I thought I was invincible so there was no fear in my heart when I stepped out on the porch with her. We headed down my street to the park. Before I was more than one foot off my driveway, my mom appeared in the window above the garage, “Where are you going?” I told her that I was just walking to the park and would be right back. She was not pleased with my decision but she did not say anything else. I knew that she would be watching me from the window anyway. We walked in silence until we made it to the park and sat down on one of the tables near the tennis courts. I purposely picked the table that could be seen from my house.

“So where you been all day?”

“First, how are you doing?”

“I’m a little pissed off right now to be honest with you. I feel like you are trying to play me.”

“What are you talking about? Play you how?”

“Who were you with today?”

“A friend. Why? You asking questions like we are a couple or something.”

“I know we aren’t but I thought we were trying to build something here.”

“Look. It is the summer. When August gets here, you will go your way and I will be on the other side of the country. We are just having fun.”

Why did I say that? Next thing I know, she has a knife in her hand. To this day, I cannot tell you where it came from but there it was and she was looking at me with bad intentions. So I jump up and start moving backwards.

“What are you doing?”

She did not respond. Instead, she started walking out of the park and back up the street. We walked in silence as I trailed her up the block. She got into her car and sped off. As I entered the house, my mother greeted me at the door with, “I told you that child was crazy!”

Questions of the day: What are the signs you are dealing with someone crazy? Have you ever had a fatal attraction experience? Why do crazy people have the best sex?

NOTE: CL is the exception to the attractive women are crazy rule!

Friday Flashback

2009-05-15T08:09:00.001-04:00

This is my all-time favorite Coltrane song. Dude was a monster and his entire band was too.

10 Ways Guys Mess Things Up

2009-05-13T08:28:00.001-04:00

How many of these have I made? Let’s just say you need both hands to count them. Am I the only one who just can’t get right?

Ten Relationships Mistakes Men Make (and Just How Many Violations Do I Have):

1.Giving a woman too much power – If the woman is determining when you go out, when you make love, or who you can be friends with then that relationship isn’t going to last very long. A brother has to know his own worth and act accordingly. In one of those 80-20 scenarios, it is as if you do not feel worthy of the woman and you will do anything she says to keep her happy. Big mistake. Truth be told, she does not want to be in control either but she will do it if you do not step up to the plate.

2.Trying to invoke too much of your own control – As much as you should not give up all the control to your woman, you should not try to be too in control yourself. Nobody loves a tyrant. Finding a nice balance is essential to making a healthy happy relationship.

3.Believing that the good you do today will last until tomorrow – Despite what women say, you cannot build up goodwill that you can cash in whenever you mess up. The flowers and candy you gave her the other day do not mean anything today when you did not call her until the next morning after a night out with your friends.

4.Being domineering or overly possessive – No woman likes the overly jealous type or being told what to do. Even though she wants you to lead, she still wants to be treated with respect and as an equal. The funny thing is that I know women who do not think a guy really cares unless he gets jealous.

5.Allowing family members or friends to dictate what happens in the relationship - Opinions are like _____ and everybody has one. In the end, it is the couple’s decisions that matter and neither family nor friends should be influencing the direction of your relationship.

6.Always kissing up – Outside of the basic level of respect that you give all women, everything else must be earned. Do not place your SO on such a high pedestal that she does not remember the ground. This goes back to knowing your worth.

7.Complacency - Being tenacious and goal-oriented is all a woman wants in her man. You do not have to have the world (but she would love it if you did) yet. Show some progress and things will be fine.

8.Choosing a woman based on appearance alone – Yeah, she’s fine but does she make sense when she talks…are you compatible…what are her goals and ambitions? Guys can get caught up in the imagery that comes along with a woman and forget to look for the important things.

9.Placing someone (anyone) or something before your mate - This includes friends, relatives (See Mistake #5), co-workers, animals, your car, or your hobbies. If a woman feels like something or someone is more important to you than she is then she won’t hear anything you are trying to say.

10.Yielding to temptation from other women - For some reason, there are women who go after men that are already attached. Recognize those women and steer clear of them if you can. This might be number 10 but it is the easiest way to end up a victim of a Waiting to Exhale moment.

TMI: What's Your Fantasy

2009-05-06T10:16:00.001-04:00

1. Have you ever bought a membership to a porn site? If yes, what is the most recent one and did you like it?

2. Would you rather watch a erotic/porn movie, read a story, or listen to an audio? Why?

3. If you have a significant other what do you do for each other to get in the mood? If you don't what would you kind of thing could a future potential long term partner do to get you in the mood?

4. When it comes to sex, how much do you talk about it with others? How comfortable are you talking about sex?

5. What are the last 5 things you search for on Google (or another search engine)?

Bonus: Have you ever had a fantasy that you were ashamed of?

This is My Joint!

2009-04-24T07:00:00.000-04:00

The Foreign Exchange feat. Darien Brockington - "Take Off The Blues" from The Foreign Exchange on Vimeo.

FRESH for '09.....You Suckas!

2009-04-23T06:24:00.003-04:00

How do you keep a relationship hot? Make sure that you and your baby don't get bored with one another? You ask enough people and you will find that the one thing all of them will say is that you need to have your own life so that you can bring something to the table. Outside interests, circle of friends, and family should never suffer when you are in a relationship. The funny part is that as solid as this advice is, I didn't pay attention to it. Let my relationship take up all my time and never set aside time for me. Bad idea!

So step two of Operation Get My Swagger Back is getting a life. The plan is to get back into my writing, go back to school, hang with my friends, travel, and enjoy life. Its really all about the simple things though like being happy with me. Lately, I have been beating myself up for what I am not. Like Kanye says though, "everything I am not makes me everything I am.". Got to embrace the good and the bad.

How do you express your individuality within a relationship? What things do you do just for yourself that don't include your mate? How do you maintain a good balance between individual growth and the collective growth?

Song Of The Moment

2009-04-17T07:00:00.000-04:00

OGMSB: What's Your Passion?

2009-04-06T20:26:00.002-04:00

This past weekend, CL and I were sitting down watching some television and ended up seeing an episode of Tough Love on VH-1. One of the women was explaining to the host why she wasn't interested in dating a guy and that was because he hadn't really expressed his passion in life (what he was working towards) to her on any of the dates. She said he must not be ambitious. Obviously, that's an important trait for a potential mate. It made me start thinking about what my passion in life is at this point. And then I thought that I shouldn't really have to think about something that I am passionate about. It should be on my mind all the time. Maybe I need more help than I thought. Anyway, I'm still brainstorming.

What are y'all passionate about? Do you feel that you are making good progress towards that goal?

Song Of The Moment

2009-04-03T07:00:00.000-04:00

Operation Get My Swagger Back

2009-03-31T07:47:00.001-04:00

Yesterday was a good day primarily because I decided to work on those things that I can control. Number one among those things is my mental outlook. Instead of focusing on the negative, I decided to embrace the good things. It is still hard for me to not take bad stuff personally but one step at a time. So that makes today the second day of Operation Get My Swagger Back.

Trying to figure out how I am going to make it happen. Stop getting in my own way. Start counting my blessings. Great relationship, good family, employed, and healthy. That means that today is a chance to make life better. An opportunity to make better choices.

When I close my eyes I visualize a life that is filled with love. One in which I enjoy myself regardless of the other distractions of life. Grandma would tell me that finding faith in the Lord would be the key to that. Deep down I feel she is right. Need to find my way back to Him. Also know that my path to happiness is within. Everything I am not makes me everything that I am.

I want thank CL for hanging in there with me. You are the best and I love you with all my heart. Good days ahead, sweetie!

Song Of The Moment: My New Theme Song

2009-03-30T20:37:00.001-04:00

Passing Notes

2009-03-29T10:32:00.001-04:00

What’s up y’all!

At the beginning of this year, I declared that this year was going to be all about personal growth for me. Well, as of this moment it has been a colossal fail. I am still dealing with the same issues from 2008, 2005, and hell 2003. Remember that long lists of things that should not have made it into 2009? Some of that shit has crept in the back door.

They say of the first step towards solving your problems is acknowledging that you have one. In that spirit, I want to publicly say that I love being in a relationship and I can be good at starting new ones but I am horrible when it comes to maintaining a good healthy relationship. The first reason is that I am the quintessential Gemini. I can be in my own world and space and not give enough energy or time to the relationship. I can be moody and not easy to get along with. I can be selfish and all about me. You are probably saying that is true for most of us. Yes, but for me that can all happen in one day. Hell, I’ve never claimed to be a day at the beach. Lately, my issues have seemingly multiplied in intensity. Work-related stress and beating myself up over things that aren’t going right have put me in a state of depression. That’s one reason why I haven’t posted anything worthwhile in such a long time. Nobody wants to hear a grown man whine about anything so I’ve been dealing with things on my own. Let’s just say that hasn’t been working out like I had hoped.

So that brings me back here to the blogisphere to air my dirty laundry and try to find resolution. I will be using this space to vent on some of my more personal issues that I would never have put out there in the past. I’m sure it will cost me some of the five or six readers that I currently have but I feel like this is a serious crossroads for me.

Peace,
Krush

TMI: Google Me

2009-03-24T08:11:00.003-04:00

1. Ever Googled a date, a potential date or an ex?

Yes, I've google some people who have a presence online. Its good to get a heads up about someone if you can. It's the same as asking questions of a mutual friend about them before going out.

2. Do you gossip?

No, I am anti-gossip (but I'll listen if its juicy)

3. How many people do you completely trust?

Complete trust is a serious thing. I would say three.

4. Have you ever had sex in car?

Oh yes! (cue LL "In the back my jeep")

5. What is your best flirting technique: innuendo, telling a dirty joke, talking about sex life, or physical contact?

Innuendo because once you get a person's interest you never know where it may go

Bonus (as in optional): How many times is the most you have ever had sex in a 24 hour period?

I think my high number is four but after the first three it all starts to blend together.

Six PIllars of Self-Esteem

2009-03-22T21:29:00.000-04:00

1. Living Consciously. To live consciously is to be present to what we are doing; to seek to understand whatever bears on our interests, values, and goals; to be aware both of the world external to self and also to the world within.

2. Self-acceptance. To be self-accepting is to own and experience, without denial or disowning, the reality of our thoughts, emotions and actions; to be respectful and compassionate toward ourselves even when we do not admire or enjoy some of our feelings or decisions; to refuse to be in an adversarial or rejecting relationship to ourselves.

3. Self-responsibility. To be self-responsible is to recognize that we are the author of our choices and actions; that we must be the ultimate source of our own fulfillment; that no one is coming to make our life right for us, or make us happy, or give us self-esteem.

4. Self-assertiveness. To be self-assertive is to honor our wants and needs and look for their appropriate forms of expression in reality; to live our values in the world; to be willing to be who we are and allow others to see it; to stand up for our convictions, values, and feelings.

5. Living Purposefully. To live purposefully is to take responsibility for identifying our goals; to perform the actions that allow us to achieve them; to keep on track and moving toward their fulfillment.

6. Personal integrity. To live with integrity is to have principles of behavior to which we remain loyal in action; to keep our promises and honor our commitments; to walk our talk.

Friday Flashback

2009-03-20T07:00:00.000-04:00

TMI: What's Your Position?

2009-03-10T08:07:00.000-04:00

1. Is there a sexual act/position/practice that you were sure in advance you would hate (or never try) and then discovered to your surprise you loved?

2. Is there a sexual act/position/practice that proved a lot less interesting in practice than you thought it would be beforehand?

3. How do you let your significant other know you're in the mood? How do you let a new person in your life know?

4. How does your significant other let you know he/she is in the mood?

5. Is there one that got away - a sexual opportunity you didn't realise was one at the time, or weren't ready for and regret missing ever since?

TMI: Thats Normal to You?

2009-02-24T00:30:00.000-05:00

1. What do find is the most exciting part of a new sexual encounter?

2. Do you have "a most exciting part of a sexual encounter" with a usual partner?

3. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you just met?

4. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you work with?

5. How open and honest are you about your life with a casual acquaintance who lives in your neighborhood (or the parent a your child's friend or...)?

Bonus (as in optional): Define a "normal" as in "normal relationship" or "normal sex life".

Technical Difficulties

2009-02-22T07:00:00.001-05:00

I know you are like, "Where is Krush?" At least I hope that you were concerned with my absence. Unfortunately, I have had some issues with my computer and need to take it in to be checked out. I'm going to attempt to do some blogging from my blackberry until it gets fixed. The job is crazy right now so I don't have time to sit and write anything while I am there. Be patient with me.

TMI: That's Not Sexy

2009-02-11T07:56:00.001-05:00

1. What do you think is the un-sexiest part of the body?

2. Toilet paper: over, under, or what the hell are you talking about?

3. Have you ever called in sick to stay in bed with a sexual partner?

4. Did your parents have a "birds & bees" talk with you? If so, at what age?

5. What is one thing a someone could do to you to rock your world?

Friday Flashback

2009-02-06T07:00:00.000-05:00

Medicine for Melencholy

2009-02-04T07:00:00.000-05:00

I really want to see this movie.

TMI: Romance, Experimentation or Foreplay

2009-02-02T23:06:00.000-05:00

1. When you sleep with someone, how much or how little contact do you like to have?
2. What do you think there is a appropriate amount of time for a divorce parent to date before introducing the kids to the "new" "special" person in their life?
3. Which ONE do you wish you had more of in bed... romance, experimentation or foreplay?
4. What do you thinks makes a kiss great?
5. Describe your sex life in two words.

Bonus (as in optional): Do you remember a time when you were having sex that you smile or even laugh about now? Do tell..

Friday Flashback:

2009-01-30T07:00:00.000-05:00

This used to be my joint. Remember when she had this type of swagger (yeah, i know!)? Recently, this song has made me think of CL.

Yes, No or Maybe!

2009-01-28T21:00:00.000-05:00

In the 5Th grade, the note I passed to Rebekkah Taylor was intercepted because nosey-ass LaShonda McIntyre wanted to know what it said. Yeah, that’s right. I’m naming names! If the term was around back then, she would be what now known as a hater. This was the moment I feared, the main reason that I had been walking around with this note in my Trapper Keeper for the past two days. The worst thing a boy at McGlone Elementary could do was make a fool of himself in homeroom. Before lunch, the word would have spread throughout the school and either your reputation would be ruined or made. I had seen it happen on more than one occasion. A note is intercepted, the information is spread throughout the school and by lunchtime, there is a whole bunch of pointing and laughing. Especially if was what in my note was seen by the eyes of LaShonda. Never did like that girl.

My note was for Kim Pearson, a very precious ten year-old with high-top jellies, glasses and bangs. I wanted to know if she would be my girl. It had become obvious to me that Kim was feeling me every since Mrs. Henderson placed us in the same math group a couple of weeks prior. A few times, I caught her smiling at me from across the lunch room and she even punched me in the shoulder when I cracked a joke on her fake members only jacket. I was using the preferred method of the time, three boxes; one for yes, one for no, and one for maybe. I never really liked that maybe box. It left too much room for later embarrassment. The type of embarrassment that was awaiting me after my note fell into the hands of the demon seed.

Once she got her hands on my letter, she felt like it was her duty to share it with all of her girlfriends with whom she shared a table at lunch. I could see them pointing and giggling in the direction of my table in the lunchroom. Already a shy guy, this type of attention was the worst thing that could have happened to me. Soon, everybody was teasing me about my like for Kim. There was little doubt that word had even gotten back to her about my crush.

So I was expecting the worst when she approached me the next morning a couple of minutes before the first bell rung. I was standing in line outside the door of my homeroom class with my boys, Shane, Anthony, and Terry. I didn’t see her coming but Anthony tapped me and said, “Krush, check it out!” When I turned in that direction and saw the girl of my dreams coming toward me, I was tempted to run. I didn’t know if she was going to punch me in the face or, even worse, laugh in my face for thinking that she would feel the same way about me. She didn’t do either. She said, “Hey Krush!” and passed me her own note. I waited until I got to my desk to open it. The embarrassment from the day before was enough for one week. She had recreated my original note and checked the maybe box. At least she didn’t say no.

It seems as if most of today’s relationships are in that maybe box. I guess a little embarrassment is not anything compared to a broken heart. Somewhere along the line, putting a title on what you and your “friend” are doing is too much for some. I am not talking about two people who are in the early stages and still feeling each other out. I am talking about those people who are fully into the “relationship” and have developed serious feelings for one another. It is not just the guys who are feeling this way but it seems like a growing number of women that I meet are reluctant to make it “official” with their boo. Do not misunderstand what I am talking about, these folks are still doing all of the things that you do when you are in a relationship. They just aren’t calling it that. Most of the people that I have talked to that refuse to label their relationships will privately admit that they are madly in love. However, some of them will not even verbally admit that to their significant other. Somebody please explain this to me.

I guess there is some mysterious change in the relationship once you start calling it a relationship. It is similar to when you go from shacking up to being husband and wife. Although, I never really understood that one either.

Are you reluctant to put a title on your relationships? Why?

What changes in the relationship once it becomes official?

TMI: Let's Go To The Show!

2009-01-27T08:04:00.000-05:00

1. What was the last movie you saw in a theater?
2. What is your favorite movie theater snack?
3. Have you ever snuck in 'outside' food into a theater?
4. Have you ever made out in a theater?
5. What is the 'farthest' you have gone in a theater?

Bonus (as in optional): What is one of your favorite movie sex scene?

Did She Kill It or What?

2009-01-24T02:33:00.001-05:00

Jazmine Sullivan - Lions, Tigers & Bears - 1/20/2009 - Inaug
by 3030fm

TMI: Your Type and Your Sexual Peak

2009-01-20T19:56:00.002-05:00

1. Have you ever dated/married purely for money?
2. What is your type?
3. What is the best sex game you have ever played?
4. Have you ever given or received an orgasm from a person whose last name you did not know?
5. Have you ever masturbated in front of a sexual partner?

Bonus (as in optional):At what age do you think men and women reach their sexual peak? Do you think you have hit yours yet?

My Answers:
1. No, I've never dated for money but I have stayed longer
2. My type is a sexy, confident, smart, caring, generous, ambitious, funny, spiritual, and honest.
3. I would have to say scrabble for sexual favors. Different point levels meant that you had to perform or receive a certain sexual act.
4. Yes, I went home with a chick I met at a party but we ended up seeing each other for a good month afterward
5. Yes, is that unusual?
Bonus: I think its a personal thing. Each person is different. Some peak very early and others don't until their 40s. I'm hoping that my peak is still to come.

Other Things Dr. King Said

2009-01-19T07:00:00.000-05:00

"Man is man because he is free to operate within the framework of his destiny. He is free to deliberate, to make decisions, and to choose between alternatives. He is distinguished from animals by his freedom to do evil or to do good and to walk the high road of beauty or tread the low road of ugly degeneracy." - 1959

"The strong man holds in a living blend strongly marked opposites. The idealists are usually not realistic, and the realists are not usually idealistic. The militant are not generally known to be passive, nor the passive to be militant. Seldom are the humble self-assertive, or the self-assertive humble. But life at its best is a creative synthesis of opposites in fruitful harmony. The philosopher Hegel said that truth is found neither in the thesis nor the antithesis, but in the emergent synthesis which reconciles the two." - 1963

"It is true that behavior cannot be legislated, and legislation cannot make you love me, but legislation can restrain you from lynching me, and I think that is kind of important." - 1964

"Each of us lives in two realms, the "within" and the "without."... Now the great temptation of life and the great tragedy of life is that so often we allow the without of our lives to absorb the within of our lives. The great tragedy of life is that too often we allow the means by which we live to outdistance the ends for which we live." - 1965

"We must stand up and say, "I'm black and I'm beautiful," and this self-affirmation is the black man's need, made compelling by the white man's crimes against him." - 1967

Friday Flashback

2009-01-15T23:01:00.000-05:00

Passing Notes

2009-01-12T10:35:00.001-05:00

Happy Monday! How was everybody’s weekend? I am making a conscious effort to write more blogs in 2009 than I did in the last half of ’08. I am sure you noticed that, right? I would like to say that my real life got so hectic that I did not have time to write but that would not be the truth. Honestly, I just did not have anything to say. As many blogs that I have read acknowledge, it is easier to write when things are not going right in your life. You are trying to work things out in your mind and seeking some sort of clarity. When you are happy and content, you just do not want to jinx it. I want to reverse that philosophy and start acknowledging the good things in life and celebrating happy times. Hope you do not mind!

CL:
This was a typical weekend for CL and me. Friday night, she was with the kids and I went out for drinks with a friend. Saturday, I had to work so I did not get over her house until that afternoon. Unbeknownst to her, I made a quick trip to the Coach Outlet and picked up a purse for her. Do not believe what the rappers say, it is tricking if you got it. Seriously, I owed her a Christmas present, so this was my attempt to make up for it. She seemed to like it. Sunday, I watched football and played around on the computer. CL had stuff to do with the kids. It hit me last night that I have the coolest girlfriend in the world. Any of the other women I have dated would have been trippin’ about time spent.

NBA 2K9:
My name is Krush and I am a 2K9 addict. I know y’all remember the commercials when this game first came out with KG and The Cool Kids bumping’. So far, this is my favorite game for my Xbox 360. I cannot play it during the week because I will be up way past the time that I should have my ass in the bed. If any of you play online, let me know so you can get run.

NFL Playoffs:
I cannot front. Every since the Falcons lost, I have not been too into the playoffs. I did watch the Eagles-Giants game because I am a Donovan McNabb and Eagles fan. I love that they beat the Giants to advance. That makes it all the sweeter. Really surprised that the Panthers got beat. Pittsburgh has to be the favorite to win the whole thing now. Do not sleep on the Ravens though.

F The Police:
I finally saw the video of the police shooting of Oscar Grant in the BART train station in Oakland, CA. WTF!! They had dude on his stomach with three officers surrounding him. Mr. Grant is pleading with them when one cop pulls out his weapon and shoots him in the back. I am heated about this bullshit but I cannot say that I am surprised. It was not that long ago that the police ran up in an elderly woman’s home with a false warrant and killed her in Atlanta. I can understand people’s anger about this situation but I have always been one who thought that rioting was counterproductive. I also heard that there have been at least two other police shootings since the beginning of the year. It’s damn shame.

Anyway, I hope everybody has a good and productive week.

Friday Flashback

2009-01-09T07:00:00.000-05:00

TMI: Would You Rather?

2009-01-07T07:00:00.000-05:00

Would you rather be stranded on an island alone or with someone you dislike/don't get along with?

I would take the person that I don't like because if they hate me enough we can come up with a way to get off the island just so we can get away from each other.

Would you rather accidentally walk in on your parents having sex or have them walk in on you?

I'd rather they walked in on me. I almost caught my mom and stepdad in the act once and I'm still gun-shy about walking into their bedroom.

Would you rather not have sex for two years or not be able to use the Internet for two years?

I'm going to go without the internet. Hell, I did it for a long time before it was ever invented.

Would you rather find true love or 1 million dollars?

True love and about $500,000 would be good for me.

Bonus (as in optional): If you had to choose *one* sexual position for the rest of your life, what would it be? Why?

I'll take doggie style for $100, Alex!

I actually provided answers this time because Ebonne gave me a hard time for just posting questions. Let's see how you answer.

The Passion Test

2009-01-05T17:00:00.001-05:00

My sister has been on my case recently about finding out what I really want to do in life. I guess she can sense my unhappiness with my current career path and feels as if I can do more. This morning she sent me an email:

Have you seriously asked yourself the passion test questions, like…

What is my passion?

What do I love to do that I would not care if I was ever paid to do it?

What is it that I do where I lose all track of time or get lost in?

What were my childhood hobbies or dreams?

I am in the airport and overhear a conversation with a few people. What subject would they have to be talking about that would pique my interest and I would have to say something?

Now, I don't really have any answers for these questions right now. Just something I need to think about. Love my sister for looking out for her little brother.

Song of The Moment

2009-01-05T09:55:00.001-05:00

Royce Da 5'9" - "Shake This" from Three/21 Films on Vimeo.

Dear 2009

2009-01-02T09:45:00.000-05:00

Happy Belated Birthday! I am sorry I missed you yesterday but your boy was off and enjoying his free time. First things first, I need to let you know that although I am excited about your being here, I am also a little anxious about what you have in store for me. If you remember last year’s post, I have had some issues with odd numbered years. However, this is the perfect opportunity to break the cycle and start a new tradition.

I am not one to talk about a person’s family so I will not mention that your brother (2008) and I did not accomplish many of the things we set out to do last January. Last year’s goals included getting into shape, buying a house, being more social, and finding that special someone. 1) I am still fat. 2) I am still renting. 3) I did make strides on this one but not to the degree, I would like. 4) Yes! I found love on a two-way street!

So just like those minutes on your cell phone, we are going to roll over some of those goals into this year. In addition to those things, I want to make this year about personal growth (mentally, physically, and spiritually). I am going to take some classes to better myself in several areas of life. Already renewed my gym membership so I can work on getting into shape. My coworkers are trying to convince me to do Weight Watchers with them. I am not sure if I have the discipline to count points/calories like that but if I keep doing the same thing, I will keep getting the same results. Also, I will be making an appearance at church at least once a month even if I have to knock on the door to gain access. On top of all that though, I need to get beyond the insecurities and self-doubt that I have been carrying around forever. It is a damn shame when other people see you in a much better light than you see yourself. I can’t really say I know how to accomplish this last goal but I’m so tired of living in this fog.

So 2009, we have our work cut out for us in the next twelve months. Did you bring your hard hat?

Yours truly,
Krush

Leave It Behind

2008-12-31T00:00:00.000-05:00

I found this in my inbox this morning. It is just a little food for thought to take into the new year.

This week's topic: What do you need to leave behind?

Dear Friends,

In preparation for a New Year, I invite you to start 2009 by leaving
some things behind. I challenge and encourage you each week to take
steps toward your vision, to dream a bigger dream, listen to your life,
and focus on what's truly important to you. To do that, you must first
ensure that you have a strong foundation on which to build your best
life. That means making a fresh start, if necessary.

There is no point in building a vision on a foundation muddied with
unfinished business, unresolved issues, hurts and regrets because the
vision will not be fully realized. Now is the best time to let go of any
attitude, project, relationship, or issue that weighs you down or
impedes your progress towards a more purposeful and joyful life.

In Philippians 3:13, the apostle Paul talks about "forgetting those
things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are
ahead." What things do you need to leave behind? Make a list this week
and choose not to carry certain things into 2009.

Here are a few examples to get you started:

- Projects and activities that you are not passionate about.
You don't have time to spend on things that really don't matter to you
anymore!
- "Friendships" that drain your energy, are not reciprocal or are just
plain abusive or inappropriate.
Love and respect others, and expect to be loved and respected in return.
Accept nothing less.
- "Wishing" and "regretting".
They do nothing to help you build a better future and leave you feeling
powerless to change your life.
- Grudges and unforgiveness.
They keep you stuck in the past and drain you mentally, spiritually and
over time, can even make you physically sick.
- A broken heart.
Choose to let go of what was, learn from the experience and start
focusing on a vision for your future!
- Failures and mistakes.
Don't wallow in them. Learn from them.
- Superficial status symbols.
Is it possible you need to let go of something that makes you feel more
important - a job title, a certain relationship, a material possession
you can no longer afford - so that you can pursue a more purposeful
path?
- Negative attitude.
Make a decision not to rain on your own parade. Stop embracing the
reasons you cannot have the life you want and start embracing the
reasons you CAN have that life.
- Procrastination!
Either get started, let the project go, or change the goal to something
more manageable. Don't burden yourself by dragging this old habit into
the new year.

These are just a few examples. Create your own personal list so that
your foundation for 2009 isn't cracked by negative influences, attitudes
or habits.
Then choose to leave these things in your past. It is an act of faith.
We hold on to the old because we are afraid to let go. Pray for the
wisdom to identify what you need to let go of and for the courage to
actually let it go. You will be delighted to see how God answers your
prayer!

My challenge to you this week:
Prayerfully make a list of what you will let go of. Over the next week,
take the steps necessary to begin the year with a slate clear of
whatever you've been holding on to - whether it is a simple decision, a
phone call you need to make, or a conversation you need to have, get the
ball rolling!

Journaling question:
What is most difficult for you to let go of? What will it take for you
to let go and move forward?

My answers: My fear of failure. Stepping out of my comfort zone and seeing that it isn't as bad as I thought it would be.

It's Almost Over

2008-12-29T12:44:00.002-05:00

What do you consider your favorite misadventure/adventure of 2008?

My favorite adventure for 2008 was meeting and falling in love with CL. In a short amount of time, we have had some serious fun and made a strong connection. The one that will always hold a special moment in my heart is when we went to see Teedra Moses.

What happened this year that made you the happiest?

See above

The proudest?

My proudest moment is getting a little bit of recognition for my blog and being able to write some things that caught people's attention.

Any regrets?

No regrets

Did you learn something new about yourself?

I learned that I truly value the few friends that I have who provide me with good no-nonsense advice.

Did you try something new and exciting in 2008?

Yes, I tried to be more open about my feelings. Terrifying but exciting at the same time.

Things that MUST STOP in 2009

2008-12-21T22:34:00.003-05:00

This is a list of shit that just needs to stop or go away in the coming year. Please feel free to add on if I missed something.

1. Guys wearing gay-ass tight jeans and fruity sneakers
2. Big girls in clothes that don't fit. They make that shit in your size!
3. Women/Men over 30 talking about they aren't going to date anybody with kids. Who are you going to date?
4. People who take stuff on the internet way too serious (blogs, myspace, facebook, etc.)
5. The excuse that the man is holding you back. Obama is President! You can dead that one.
6. Procrastinating
7. Robbing Peter to pay Paul
8. Black folks wearing colored contacts. Its not 1988 anymore. Stop it!
9. The ponytail/weave booths in the middle of the mall. I guess chicks aren't even trying to fool you anymore, huh?
10. Grown ass men with a closet full of sneakers and no dress shoes (and any male over 15 without a suit!)
11. Corny come-on lines. Just be yourself!
12. Women who don't "need" a man. You aren't fooling anybody.
13. Atlanta traffic
14. People who hate on other people's happiness or success.
15. The saying "hate on"
16. The use of the word "swag"
17. Reality shows with so-called celebrities who are famous for doing nothing.
18. Heroes, Grey's Anatomy, and Desperate Housewives
19. Brett Favre. Just retire already!
20. Wack porn movies. It can't be that hard to make a good one of these.
21. Diddy's music career. Just keep making clothes and babies.
22. Vivica Fox
23. My non-church going self.
24. My non-traveling self.
25. People at work who try to get others to do their job.
26. GeeGee's fantasy basketball team kicking my team's ass
27. People who think because they have a blog that they are "industry"
28. Any dude over 18 with braids
29. Females with crimps. Who brought this shit back?
30. Adults who are physically and mentally capable of working that would rather get public assistance or beg on the street.
31. Mohawks on little boys
32. Rap beefs
33. Corporations getting bailed out but my bills still being due.
34. People thinking you should support a business just cause its black. Nevermind the poor service and the high prices.
35. Chicks with nothing going for themselves singing "Put A Ring On It"
36. Bitchassness
37. People not being happy with themselves so that walk around bitter all the damn time.
38. Excuses
39. Fools who still think going to jail is cool.
40. Black on Black violence
41. People over 30 who haven't committed to anything serious in life.
42. Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda's!
43. Stop Fronting! Be Yourself!
44. Bad Credit
45. Wanting what the next man/woman has
46. The non-word "conversate"
47. Ghetto literature
48. My addiction to fast food
49. Working extra hours for the same pay
50. Being a nice guy.

Song Of The Moment

2008-12-19T07:00:00.000-05:00

TMI: Santa's Naughty Helper

2008-12-11T19:06:00.000-05:00

1. Do you consider sexy underthings a present for you or your partner?

2. What are 3 characteristics of "your type"? Have you best relationship(s) been with your type or when you have gone against it?

3. What is on your Santa list this year?

4. Generally speaking, who has historically had a higher libido, you or your partner(s)?

5. The unsculptured female bush seems to have passed from fashion. What about men, do you think they need to trim and shave "down there"?

Bonus (as in optional):What are a few of your favorite things (both sexual non-sexual)?

Song of the Moment

2008-12-03T07:00:00.000-05:00

TMI: Thanksgiving Special

2008-11-25T20:00:00.000-05:00

1. What is your favorite Thanksgiving food?

2. You can flip a switch that will wipe any band or musical artist out of existence. Which one will it be?

3. You seem to be having an excellent day because you just came across a hundred-dollar bill on the sidewalk. Holy crap, a hundred bucks! How are you gonna spend it?

4. What is your favorite curse word?

5. A man appears out of nowhere with a time-traveling phone booth. You can go anytime in the PAST. What time are you traveling to and what are you going to do when you get there?

Bonus (as in optional):You accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what's even cooler is that they endow you with the super-power of your choice! What's it gonna be?

Song of The Moment

2008-11-25T07:00:00.000-05:00

It's Game Time

2008-11-24T21:05:00.004-05:00

I finally made the big purchase....picked up the XBox 360 this weekend. Love it! Haven't purchased any games yet but CL and I are enjoying Kung Fu Panda. Co-worker has the hook up on some games through her brother that works at Best Buy. I plan on getting all the good joints for the low low. If anybody knows any good links for instructions/tips for how to make this Xbox live work, pass them forward.

Friday Flashback

2008-11-21T07:00:00.001-05:00

TMI: When Was The Last Time?

2008-11-20T07:00:00.000-05:00

1. When did you last use your cellular telephone as a flashlight?

2. On a scale from 1-10, how comfy are you being naked?

3. What is the longest you've ever been celibate after having lost your virginity?

4. Have you ever had sex in a car? If yes, since you were a teenager?

5. When did you last use food or drink as medication?

Bonus: Name three words that:
a) get you excited
b) make you squirm
c) make you laugh

Passing Notes

2008-11-18T14:20:00.001-05:00

What’s good! I hope that everybody has fully recuperated from all the bottle poppin’, booty shakin’ and celebratory sexin’ y’all did over the weekend. This week has already gotten off to an interesting start: Obama is still the President-elect, Lindsey Lohan is still showing her PWT membership card by referring to African-Americans as colored, and the Cheetah girls have a sex tape. Welcome to the Good Life!

CL and I saw the new James Bond movie over the weekend. I thought it picked up where the last movie left off but CL thought it was hot garbage. Did you see it? What are your thoughts?

Shaq is officially old man crazy. Old man in basketball years because he is still a young man. Did y’all catch this fool shoving people all over the court the other night? The next night, he tries to decapitate a kid from the Pistons. Then, he’s starts talking about going back to the Lakers, like they would want his ass. Just give it up already!

R.I.P. Shakir Stewart – Morehouse College alumnus

Apparently, Beyonce is Sasha Fierce.

I went to the mall for the first time in months last week. It’s like a junkie falling off the wagon. My Nordstrom card is burning a hole in my wallet. Just in time for Christmas shopping, right? If you are in the shopping mood too, here is a brief wish list for your boy:
1. Wii or Xbox 360
2. Colorful winter sweaters
3. Black boots
4. Something good to read (remember, I don’t do ghetto literature)
5. Blazer or Sports Coat

What’s the last CD you bought? I need some good music.

Anybody else watching NBA TV? Isn’t Eric Snow the most boring analyst you have ever seen? However, I do love when Gary Payton and Chris Webber are hilarious though.

I don’t see any harm in having a drink at lunchtime before coming back to work. Especially, when your Director calls you into his office to discuss why two of the women in the office don’t like each other. Like I am about to get into that mess.

How do you console someone you love when they are hurt beyond your ability to repair?

Anyway, this is just some of the things that are on my mind today. I hope you have a good and productive week.

Friday Flashback

2008-11-14T07:00:00.000-05:00

TMI: How Do You Feel?

2008-11-12T13:52:00.001-05:00

1. Have you ever felt guilty or ashamed after a sexual experience?

2. How often do you kiss or make out without it simply being a foreplay activity?

3. On a scale of 1-10, how content are you with your life? (1 is lowest, 10 is highest) Do you think 'content' and 'happy' the same thing?

4. What do you do to relieve stress?

5. On a scale of 1-10, how well do you receive constructive criticism?

Bonus: What percentage of women do you think are capable of handling being in a "friends with benefits" relationship? How about men?

SIT YOUR ASS DOWN!

2008-11-10T15:27:00.002-05:00

Republicans – You lost the election and you don’t have the majority in the Senate or House. Just because your guy lost, doesn’t mean you have to wish ill on the country so you can win the next election. All that, “We are doomed” talk. SIT YOUR ASS DOWN!

Obama Lovers – I am very happy that for the first time in my life the better candidate actually won an election. I was truly moved that this country could elect a black man to the highest office in the land. However, I am not so excited that I think he’ll be the answer to all our problems and put people back to work, in their homes, and out of debt. He’s just a man and the issues that face this country are serious and require very complex solutions that may not happen within four years. No, he is not going to send you a check, pay your mortgage, get your baby daddy out of jail, or clear your credit. You have to do some of that shit for yourself. SIT YOUR ASS DOWN!

My boss – This chick is such a lazy fat ass. She is constantly passing all her work on to me. I not only have to do my work but most of her work as well. Yeah, I know she’s my boss and that is what she is supposed to do. However, she passes me her work because she doesn’t know how to do it. When I do it, she takes credit for it as if she did it all by herself. On top of that, she is always referring to how things were done in her old job like it was the greatest place on earth. SIT YOUR ASS DOWN!

My fantasy football team – I have lost five weeks in a row. It doesn’t matter who I start because they all end up having a horrible game. I’m not giving up because I need to have a respectable record when the season ends. My chances of making the playoffs or winning anything are gone though. SIT YOUR ASS DOWN!

10 Presidential Traits Every Man Should Have

2008-11-06T21:23:00.002-05:00

1. Respect - Even the biggest asshole deserves some type of respect. You have to give some to get some.

2. Patience - We’ve all heard that patience is a virtue but not many of us have mastered it. Learn to not to panic and see how the cloud of confusion can drift away.

3. Open-mindedness - Want good advice? Go to someone you usually disagree with. He may just surprise you.

4. Enthusiasm - The best ideas draw the most criticism. Maintain your passion and your smile, and others will want to join your cause.

5. Accountability - The bigger the blunder, the greater the apology.

6. Humility - Knowing your weaknesses is just as important as touting your strengths.

7. Empathy - Judge others in the context of their worlds, not yours.

8. Responsibility - It doesn't matter if you're commander-in-chief or branch manager: If you don't know what your troops are doing, you're probably too far removed from the battlefield.

9. Initiative - Always talk more about what you want to do than what you've already done. The only person who cares about your résumé is the guy copying it at Staples.

10. Diplomacy - A conflict-free resolution is the only sure way to avoid lasting collateral damage.

Yes, We Did!

2008-11-05T08:30:00.000-05:00

Get Your Cousin!

2008-11-03T19:39:00.000-05:00

Pave A New Road

2008-10-31T07:59:00.003-04:00

Yesterday, I exercised my right to vote. It was so crowded that it took me 2 1/2 hours to vote but it was well worth it. I just recently saw this new Eric Roberson video for his new single, "Pave A New Road". They put together a very nice video to go along with it. The message is much needed. If you haven't already voted, please make sure you do so on Tuesday, Nov. 4th.

TMI: Wild Enough For You?

2008-10-28T15:00:00.001-04:00

1. Ever been stalked an ex? Stalked an ex? Or stalked 'a you'd like to be'?

Yes, I've had an ex who cyber stalked me. I also had a fatal attraction who tried to stab me.

2. How often do you reach orgasm during sex? Has that historically been true?

1 or 2 times depending on how horny I am. Yes, that has been the average.

3. Teeth when used during oral stimulation, good or bad?

It can be both good and bad if the person knows what they are doing. Nothing wrong with a little pain.

4. How many times is the most you have ever had sex in a 24 hour period? How many different sexual partners have you had in a 24 hour period?

The most I can remember is four but I think I did more back during one of those old Freakniks. Never had more than one partner in a 24 hour period.

5. Would you rather run naked through a crowded place or have someone email your deepest secret too all your friends?

I'll take the naked jog.

Bonus: Have you ever kissed your partner on the lips after oral sex without brushing teeth, nor washing/gargling/rinsing out mouth? Turn on or off?

Yes, all the time. That's why you should be clean for yourself and not for your partner.

Love or Lust

2008-10-27T07:00:00.003-04:00

CL and I have been together for damn near eight months. Wow! Time flies when you are having fun. Sometimes it feels as if we’ve been together for years. I mean that in a good way. On our good days, we have such a great chemistry and comfort level that everything we do seems so natural. Other days, we feel like strangers who are just going through the motions. In the end, that’s my best friend though. She’s got my back and I’ve got hers.

My mom is always talking about how quickly I fall in love. Every since I was in high school, I have always been a relationship type of guy. I never really enjoyed being single and trying to meet women. The whole dating thing grows old on me real fast. Some might even describe me as a Sucker for Love. Mr. Sensitive. One of my former co-workers would say I had a bad case of the Ralph Tresvants. Either way, I’m just being me. Can’t really help it.

Does love have a time frame? How do you tell the difference between love and lust?

It’s real easy to get caught up in the beginning stages of your relationship and think that you are in love. Anybody who has ever been in that situation where you are getting some good love on the regular, sharing new experiences, and someone is really feeling your story, can testify that at some point you have to take a step back and evaluate. Am I really in love or is it just the new booty? Are we compatible or am I overlooking something?

In my last relationship, the paint didn’t start to chip until we reached the seven month mark. That’s when my belief that we would one day get married and grow old together hit a serious brick wall. I realized that I didn’t even like this woman. I was blinded by the anticipation of the next freaky thing we would do. Didn’t even see it coming. So this time, I swore to myself that I would take my time and go slow. Didn’t happen that way. I was caught up fast just like before.

It feels different this time though. I am communicating more. We talk about our feelings all the time. She knows where I stand and I know how she feels. Even though I lust for her body 24/7, I wouldn’t be satisfied with just that. I want her mind, body, love, faith, and devotion.

What about you?...

Have you ever mistaken lust for love? What happened when you realized your mistake?

How can you tell the difference?

Have you changed your approach to dating because of it?

Song Of The Moment

2008-10-24T12:00:00.000-04:00

Friday Flashback

2008-10-24T07:00:00.001-04:00

Things I Learned

2008-10-21T19:09:00.002-04:00

1. I'm not making enough progress in getting my life in order. I have got to double up on my efforts.

2. As much as I enjoy sleeping alone in my comfy bed, waking up with CL is so much better.

3. Somebody is always paying attention to everything you do no matter how insignificant you think the task.

4. I give up way too easily.

5. Self-preservation is the law of the land.

6. My two favorite TV shows, Dexter and True Blood, come on at the same time. I can’t really enjoy either because I’m always flipping back and forth.

7. As old as I am, I think I’m going to break down and buy a video game system. Wii or Xbox 360?

8. After going to church on Sunday, I really need to get back into some sort of spiritual life.

9. Its two months before Christmas and I’m already stressing about gifts.

10. Although I am excited about the possibility of the first black president and I am going to vote for Obama, I am tired about hearing about this campaign already

TMI: Sexual Signals

2008-10-20T07:00:00.001-04:00

1. What do you do that sends a clear signal to your partner that you're interested in an intimate evening?

2. How important is foreplay to an exciting evening?

3. What is the first thing you do during foreplay or what is the first thing you like done to you?

4. Are you a one and done kind of partner (20 minutes or so) or do you like intimacy sessions longer than 60 minutes?

LAWD!

2008-10-16T18:25:00.000-04:00

Black Masculinity: Barack & Curtis

2008-10-13T07:00:00.000-04:00

I peeped this clip from an upcoming documentary the other day. Very interesting. Check it out and tell me your thoughts.

Songs Of The Moment

2008-10-07T19:26:00.002-04:00

TMI: You Know What Love Is?

2008-10-06T08:36:00.000-04:00

1. What do you feel is the difference between sexy and erotic?

2. Do you believe there is one right person (i.e. soul mate) for you out there in the world, or that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with?

3. Do you need to hear "I love you" or similar words on a regular basis from your partner?

4. What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?

5. What is worse - physical, mental or cyber cheating?

Weekend Wrap-Up

2008-09-29T18:53:00.002-04:00

What's up, y'all! How have you been? How is your momma, daddy, and babies? I'm pretty good. This weekend, CL and I braved the gas shortage here in Atlanta and got out in the streets. Friday night, we met at Dave & Buster's for drinks. Didn't realize that it was the meet and greet spot until I walked up in there and saw that the bar was packed with half-drunk folks. People can't possibly know how much of a fool they look when they drink too much. It was cool though. We had our drinks and then played a few games before checking out.

Every once and a while CL and I like to do something cultural. This weekend, we caught a performance of an August Wilson play, "Radio Golf" at the Alliance Theater. Great play! It starred Chad L. Coleman. Many of you may know him as Cutty from The Wire. CL, being a non-fan of The Wire, didn't know who he was but when he took off his shirt in the play, she was in love. LOL! Actually, the company is performing two of August Wilson's plays. The other one is "Gem of the Ocean". Unfortunately, we didn't get a chance to see that one. The plays are the last two in the playwright's century series. I'm sure I've talked about my love for Mr. Wilson's work on The Playground before but I want to make sure black folks go out and support this man's work.

Yesterday, we went to see Spike Lee's latest film, Miracle at St. Anna. I truly enjoyed the movie and the performances of Laz Alonzo and Derek Luke. It had all the signature items of a Spike Lee movie; soundtrack, camera movements, and familiar faces. For me, that's a good thing. It's like hanging out with an old friend. The opening of one of his films used to be a major event in Black America. Now, it goes by quietly while folks flock to see that hot mess that Tyler Perry puts out. I just don't get it.

What did you do this weekend?

Friday Flashback

2008-09-19T08:47:00.001-04:00

Bullseye!

2008-09-17T19:19:00.005-04:00

I was going to write a review of Tyler Perry's The Family That Preys but Invisible Woman summed it up perfectly.

Check it out:
The Family That Preys (On your wallet)

Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

2008-09-17T19:19:00.002-04:00

Song of The Moment

2008-09-09T17:56:00.001-04:00

Weekend Wrap-Up!

2008-09-08T10:02:00.001-04:00

Damn, it seems like the weekends keep getting shorter and shorter. I just left work and here I am back up in this bitch again. I pretty sure, these people can tell that I am not happy to see them. Whenever someone speaks to me before lunch, I give him or her mumbled “good morning” and keep it moving. Remember that promotion that I was going for a couple months back? Well, that shit went to someone else from a different agency. She is a nice woman but she has no clue how we work so I am training her on how to do the job that I should have had in the first place. I really need to get out of this place before I pull a serious DMX. “Y’all gone make me lose my mind up in here…up in here!”

Another contributor to my grumpy mood this morning is that fact that my doctor told my big ass to go on a diet, 1800 calories per day. I am in a constant state of hunger right now until my body adjusts to the way I am eating now. If any of you ATL bloggers see me on the street with some fast food, knock it out my hand and say, “Stop eating that, fat boy!” Do not worry about any repercussions because I am too hungry to chase after you. LOL! I am not the best cook so I think I am going to get very tired of eating the same thing repeatedly. If you can give me some quick and easy healthy recipes, it would be appreciated.

As far as my weekend went, it was pretty chill. CL and I just hung out on Friday night, drinking Grand Marnier Cosmos and watching television. Saturday we went to see her boy, Vin Diesel, in Babylon AD. It was not horrible but it would have been better on late night cable than at the actual movie theatre. Next weekend, I will probably be like most other guys and have to sit through another predictable Tyler Perry movie. I hope that I can convince her to check out Lakeview Terrace or that new DeNiro/Pacino flick as well.

I did get a chance to catch some football this weekend. Loved seeing Georgia Tech go up top and beat Boston College. East Carolina is beasting on folks too. UW got robbed on that excessive celebration penalty. As far as the NFL goes, the Dirty Birds surprised me with their performance. I hate that Tom Brady got hurt but it almost feels like more of that karma for the Patriots. I would say the Cowboys looked good but they did not play anybody. How about my Eagles though! Donovan is healthy and we are about to put the smack down on the NFC East. Gee-Gee (Redskins) and Eb (Cowboys/Giants), I hear y’all rolling your eyes. LOL!

Wasn’t the slightest bit interested in the VMA’s. Nobody that I am checking for is ever nominated or scheduled to perform. Let me know when the Grammy’s are on.

How was your weekend?

Friday Flashback

2008-09-05T08:13:00.001-04:00

TMI: The Power Of Words

2008-09-02T18:11:00.002-04:00

1. What is your language pet peeve. (example 'hot water heater', why would you heat hot water)

Conversate. Please somebody let folks know that this isn't a word!

2. What is your favorite word? Both dirty and clean?

True!

3. What is the one word you cannot spell?

I would put it here but I couldn't spell it right enough to look it up.

4. What is the one word you always pronounce wrong?

Ambulance

5. If you could erase one popular catchphrase from the english language, what would it be?

"Stop Hatin'!" - Nobody is hatin' on you. We just don't like you.

Bonus (as in optional): What is the most hurtful thing you have ever said to anyone? Was it deliberate or accidental? What was the most hurtful thing ever said to you? Do you think it was deliberate or accidental?

I'm always saying something stupid or hurtful without realizing it. Too many to name.