4.24.2008

Grounds For Dismissal

In the initial stages of a relationship, it is important to notice the ways that your mate likes to be treated. Everybody has boundaries for dating such as no meeting the kids until we are serious, no visits to my house or your house until at least the third date, respecting my time by calling when you are going to be late or cannot make it. Violation of these boundaries is grounds for dismissal, right? My dating experience has taught me that you need to be flexible about some of these at different times. Nothing is applicable to all women or all dating situations. I try to approach each person as an individual. However, there are some things that are universal.

The five lessons I have learned from the women I have dated:

1. Always bring up the issue when it is fresh and never let it fester.

2. It is better to admit guilt and suffer the consequences than to let her discover your transgression on her own.

3. It is better to take your time and be confident in your feelings than to rush into something based on infatuation.

4. Even if you do not feel like it, you need to talk.

5. Be consistent

Questions of the Day:
What kind of boundaries have you established for dating?
How did you handle it when someone violated your boundaries?
What are some of the lessons you have learned from dating?

4 comments:

Eb the Celeb said...

Good stuff Krush

Boundaries I set... I dont meet parents... under any circumstances... the dudes I have met their parents was when it was noway around it... but if it was up to me... I would never meet them. No one ever violated... I just finally came to grips that this was the time... I was never forced to meet them.

I have learned that you have to be a crazy mofo to deal with all the crazy things that go along with dating. Made me kinda appreciated countries that have arranged marriages because they dont even have to deal with all that mess.

Homer is My Co-pilot said...

Sup Skoolboi, your rules are on point esp the one about being consistent. One of my favorite rules is call once and leave a message. Don't call hang up and decide that you'll call later. If you leave a message and they never call you back take that as a hint. lol

Blah Blah Blah said...

I've lesrned that dating can suck rocks...

I've also learned that dating can be fun...

I don;t have set boundaries or limits...I have some guidlines but the are case by case...

Skoolboi Krush said...

Eb - What you got against parents? You know that crazy skips a generation sometimes.

Homer - That stalker like calling is one of my biggest pet peeves. I had a girlfriend that would do that mess. Told her repeatedly to just leave a message. I started not answering the phone on purpose by the end.

Blah3 - Suck rocks is a great description!