10.06.2008

TMI: You Know What Love Is?

1. What do you feel is the difference between sexy and erotic?

2. Do you believe there is one right person (i.e. soul mate) for you out there in the world, or that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with?

3. Do you need to hear "I love you" or similar words on a regular basis from your partner?

4. What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?

5. What is worse - physical, mental or cyber cheating?

12 comments:

Muze said...

1. erotic is more sensual. a level past sexy.

when i hear the word erotic, i always get the image of me in some room with dim red lights and heavy shadows, wearing a black leather bustier and a garter belt, crawling seductively up on some big bed towards someone. seriously. lol.

i know, i have issues. lol.

2. i believe in soulmates... but i believe you can have more than one soulmate. there are too many people in the world for it not to be possible. my soulmate is probably in africa or spain somewhere waiting for me! lol.

3. yes! when i feel it, i say it often, and i like to hear it often. it's even better if he says it first.

4. expressing a vulnerable side of me is very hard. not mushy happiness, i can do that, but like those really honest moments when you have 'heart to hearts'. those.

5. hmm. emotional and physical are a tie. i guess mental and physical. just don't do it period and we'll be cool. lol.

Anonymous said...

1.I think erotic has a more direct head on approach than sexy, sexy can and it tends to be understated and not the obvious

2. that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with?

3.No but hearing it (if it's not empty) is nice

4.Every single one of them except anger, LOL

5.cheating is cheating, all equally bad, all pointing to some disconnect in your relationship

All-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalo said...

sexy is topical erotic or eroc is on the mind, lacivious and steady growing

i hope so dont know if not a harem will do

from my kids, but for females - i need actions had words b4 w no action - sucks

none

Cheating is cheating if the lead to lies to your partner

Anonymous said...

1. Yes there's a difference. Sexy is being and erotic is action.

2. I believe a person has many mates who may touch there soul. Do you want to touch mine? :)

3. Yes I need to hear it. It's something I enjoy. I hope to find a guy that will say it, text it and email it often.

4. none - I am pretty verbal

5. All of them though cyber cheating ehhh as long as they don't hook up.. it's sorta like porn.

IamMe Like IT-Love IT-Hate IT said...

1. Sexy is more reserved. I think if you asked me to act erotic the gloves would be off but sexy would be flirty arousing but still staying on the safe side. For example sexy is whispering naughty things in his ear in a crowded party. Erotic is getting it on in the bathroom at a crowded party.

2. I think you do have different potential soul mates. I believe that our souls are an accumulation of energy from the universe so there will be different things and people who will appeal to one or more parts of your soul. That's why we have close friends and lovers. I believe my best girl friend is my soul mate and at the same time I believe my husband is too.

3. No I need to feel "I love you" from the actions of my partner. Being told I think is just reassurance but feeling and seeing proof is strengthening trust.

4. Remorse or sorrow, sadness and vulnerability.

5. Mental cheating. Men can see me and lust after me, fantasizing doesn't require consent so my physical does not only belong to my husband even though he's the only one allowed to touch. But it takes time to be allowed into the inner workings of someones mind, a persons thoughts and feelings are more private to me that the physical so to let someone into that aspect would be the biggest betrayal I can imagine.

clnmike said...

1- Erotica is more imaginitive and cerebral while sexy is like swagger, how you carry your self.

2- No there is more than one it's all about who you find first.

3- No

4- Feelings, Im good at being silent.

5- there all equal.

♥ CG ♥ said...

1. Sexy can be a state of mind or an outward appearance. Eroticsm involves the psyche first and the body is soon to follow.

2. I think there may be more than one guy who's specially made for me. Not that I'd be involved with both at the same time but timing and opportunity make the difference.

3. Not really. I'm the type that needs it shown in other ways. Little, thoughtful and unexpected things mean a lot to me.

4. If I'm attracted to a guy and want him to know it, I find it hard to put myself out there (other than to put my boobs in his face...just kidding!!!).

5. They're all unacceptable but I think the physical would make me wanna cut a mofo.

KayC, The Quiet Storm said...

1. Sexy is a thought of a person, the attraction to them. How they carry themselves. Erotic is an act with a person.

2. My answer has changed with time, so I would hope that there is more than one person (soul-mate) for everyone. It would be diaapointing to know that there is only one person in this huge world for you.

3. I don't need to hear those words a lot. I like for people to show me and tell me. But if you tell me all the time, then i get immune, it is like you really don't mean it and trying to convince yourself. (and me)

4. I have problems expressing initial interest in someone. I can flirt with no problem, but the initial "yeah, I like you" is difficult. After that, it's pretty much all gravy.

5. I would say all three tick me off, but emotional and cyber cause you to invest time with someone. Which really means you were feeling them and it wasn't a fly by night thing. Almost like walking into a restaurant and seeing your S.O. holding hands and staring into someone's eyes, that kind of intimacy can't be faked.

Haute in LA said...

FYI, I've been trying to make myself answer these questions for two days! LOL! I'm scattered right now I guess.

Will concentrate and Write Back.

;-)

Anonymous said...

1) Sexy - flavor, imagination, confidence. Erotic - sensual, hot, intimate.

2) I believe the ladder. The thing is that "love" is a decision - and the decision is making a commitment to give something to the person/relationship first instaed of taking first. Obviously some are more compatible - and some can inspire us more to stive for greatness.

3) YES - cause i am a word man. Words have life.

4) Anger - cause i tend to try to be a big boy about things and internalize instead of expressing it. Plus I get the feeling inside that my anger is a way of rebelling - in that by not sharing what i am angry about means i can keep the grudge to myself. i'm working on that.

5) All cheating is harmful - Cyber can be a playful to the imagination thing - which could lead to mental. Mental cheating is the beginning of the end. Cause where the mind goes the body will follow. Physical cheating is just the manifestation of where the mind already has marinated.

Eb the Celeb said...

1. What do you feel is the difference between sexy and erotic?
Sexy is a feeling, erotic is an act

2. Do you believe there is one right person (i.e. soul mate) for you out there in the world, or that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with? No I believe there are many and you have to decide if you are going to make it last forever with that one... or end it and go searching for the next one

3. Do you need to hear "I love you" or similar words on a regular basis from your partner? Not on a regular basis, I would more so like to see you do thing that represent you love me then you just saying it all the time. I think the first time is the one that really matters.

4. What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing? Love

5. What is worse - physical, mental or cyber cheating? I dont think any one is more than the other but when emotions are involved in your cheating it can cause more problems beyond the surface so If I had to pick it would be mental

Tera said...

1. To me, sexy is something that can be seen...erotic can be seen, touched, felt...and even tasted.

2. I believe there is one. We just sometimes have to be with those different potentials before we get to that one.

3. N/A-I do not have a partner at present.

4. Being fed up.

5. The worst if physical. Because there could be irreversable negative consequences (such as DISEASE) which may not be as bad with the latter two.