How do you keep a relationship hot? Make sure that you and your baby don't get bored with one another? You ask enough people and you will find that the one thing all of them will say is that you need to have your own life so that you can bring something to the table. Outside interests, circle of friends, and family should never suffer when you are in a relationship. The funny part is that as solid as this advice is, I didn't pay attention to it. Let my relationship take up all my time and never set aside time for me. Bad idea!
So step two of Operation Get My Swagger Back is getting a life. The plan is to get back into my writing, go back to school, hang with my friends, travel, and enjoy life. Its really all about the simple things though like being happy with me. Lately, I have been beating myself up for what I am not. Like Kanye says though, "everything I am not makes me everything I am.". Got to embrace the good and the bad.
How do you express your individuality within a relationship? What things do you do just for yourself that don't include your mate? How do you maintain a good balance between individual growth and the collective growth?