4.17.2008

Looking At My Gucci, It's About That Time...

I believe that timing is very important when it comes to relationships. She cannot be ready for something serious while he only wants a friend with benefits thing. He cannot be ready for marriage while she is content to live together. In addition, each person has to be beyond all the emotional baggage from their previous relationships and prepared to accept the love that the other is giving. As we all know, it is not impossible to have but there is always an element of luck, fate, kismet, or destiny involved. Finding that one person who is on your same page is a mother of a task. Many people go their entire lives without making that soulful connection. Some people are fortunate enough to have multiple loves at different stages of their lives.

Question of the day?
Which is worse? Falling for the wrong person at a time when you are ready for love or meeting the right person at a time when you know that you are not prepared to love?

8 comments:

Ieisha said...

Hands down, falling for the wrong person when you are ready for love. Becuz when looking thru the love-colored lens, we will justify almost anything. Then 2 years of drama and heartache will have passed and none will be the wiser.

And to clarify, meeting the wrong person doesn't mean s/he is horrible but like you said, not on the same level as you when it comes to the amount of commitment. That will be the death of any relationship. I speak from 100% personal experience (as if you couldn't tell, lol)

Gemini Girl aka GG said...

Damn that's a hard question..cuz as a Gemini I can see both sides of the coin...Falling for the wrong person is bad but it can show you want you are NOT looking for..and teach you lessons about yourself that will help you when Mr. Right does comes along...it makes you really examine what you want/won't tolerate in a real relationship with a real man..
Meeting the right person at the time when you are not prepared is not all that bad...most things that are worth it takes time...as long as you are both moving towards the same direction at similar paces then it can all work out.
Communication is key. Love conquers all.

Butta said...

Well as you know, up until now this has been the story of my life: poor timing (combined with poor choices, but I digress) when it comes to the opposite sex. I have fallen for so many wrong people and settled for the table scraps that they've given me just because I wanted someone, anyone around. I was ready to give up and keep settling but having recently met someone who's on the same page as I am and as into me as I'm into them is a mind-boggling experience since I haven't been here in so long--if ever.

I guess I need to blog about this man, huh? LOL

Vivrant Thang said...

Stop making me think when I'm up here at work maxin and relaxin enjoying the fact that hardly anyone is here! All I need is a cocktail.

I've recently dealt/am dealing with both of these scenarios and it's been occupying my thoughts a lot as of late.

I think it's worse to meet the wrong person at a time you are ready to love.

With the other scenario, I'm thinking that that if you meet the right person at a time you're not ready, it could still work. I think communication is key. That other person has to understand where you're at and be willing to hang in there. They need to give you space to still work on you. But you have to be actively doing that!

Bottom line, from what I've seen, if a relationship is meant to be (meaning that this person is who God has for you and not who YOU want), things fall into place at the end -regardless of any obstacles.

Skoolboi Krush said...

ieisha - "Becuz when looking thru the love-colored lens, we will justify almost anything." - CHHHHUUUURRRRRCCHHH!!

GG - I agree that you can learn some very valuable lessons from the wrong person but the pain is sometimes not worth the reward. Love the attitude - Love conquers all!

Butta - Yes, you need to blog about this man (or anything at this point!) so we can all share in your newfound joy. I tried to tell you about all that settling.

Vivrant - I'm sorry to interrupt your work day by asking you to put on your thinking cap. LOL Obstacles, huh? I should have put that Erro joint on here.

Eb the Celeb said...

Falling for someone... ugh!!

SimplyComplex said...

My answer may be biased b/c I havent experienced the latter. But falling for the wrong person when you're ready for love? That's the pits...

Smuckers said...

I've been a romantic since before I could spell the word "romantic"...so I've always felt that I was "ready for love"...

Consequently, I've fallen for the wrong person OVER... and OVER..and OVER...and OVER...and OVER again...

...And it sucks everytime...*sigh*